A Silent Truth We Rarely Talk About
I recently thought a lot about something that most of us don't really want to admit: we lie to ourselves. I know I do it, and if I am honest, I did it more often than I can count.
It is not always clear. I'm not talking about large and dramatic lies. I mean the little ones: the peaceful and convincing thoughts that we use to feel better at the moment. "I am fine." "This is not a problem." "I can stop at any time." Do they seem known?
What I’ve Learned About Why We Do This
Depending on what I understand, self-reception is often a defense mechanism. This shows when the truth is too overwhelming or threatening. At the bottom of the interior, we know that something is not correct - but we bury it, justify it or reject it until "later".
My Own Experience With Self-Deception
For me, I stayed in a situation - both personally and professionally - longer than I should have done. I said it is better to react only excessively. But when I look back, I can see that I was afraid to speak. Fear of change. Fear of letting go. This achievement met. But that also frees me.
The Cost of Not Facing the Truth
Self-deception gives us temporary comfort - you often have long -term consequences. He holds us. We remain in relationships that do not serve us. We avoid the risks in which we have to enter. We are racing ourselves stories that feel safe, but limit what we could become.
The Small Lies We Tell Ourselves
You’ve probably heard (or said) some of these before:
“This job is great—I’m just having a broken week.”
“I don’t need help—I can grip this on my own.”
“I’m not settling; I’m just being realistic.”
These aren’t just excuses. They’re red flags. Signals that we might be ignoring a deeper truth.
How I Learn to Be More Honest With Myself
I always discover it out, but here I helped myself:
Asking better questions like, “What am I afraid to admit right now?”
Journaling my gut reactions before I rationalize them away
Letting go of perfection—being honest doesn’t mean I have to have it all together
It's Not About Being Brutal—It’s About Being Real
There is a difference between honesty and hardness. I learned that the best type of honesty is the type of root in self compassion. You can face the truth without talking about it.
Last thoughts: choose the truth even if it is uncomfortable
I learn that honesty, even with myself, is a daily choice. It is not always comfortable, but it is where the real change begins. The truth is not always good at the moment, but builds a stronger and freer version than me in the long term.
So if you've lied to yourself lately - how do we all do - could you breathe and ask sweetly: "What really happens here?" That question can simply open a new door.
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